Everyman Wants to Belong

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The Everyman accepts and cuddles others. They like being around people who know and enjoy good-natured humor and laidback charm.

So do you recognize Blake Shelton’s photo above? He’s one of the judges on TV’s “The Voice” He’s an awesome example of the good ol’ boy Everyman Personality.

Modeled by the Guy or the Girl Next Door, Everyman archetypes are wholesome and genuine This makes them hugely likeable.

The Everyman manifests the American ideals of hard work and honesty, and lives by common sense values and authenticity. They feel no need for pretense. They don’t measure themselves with status symbols.

Motto: All men and women are created equal

Basic desire: Connection with others

Objective: Belonging to a group

Fear: Being left out

Strategy: Common Sense

Weakness: Losing one’s own personality

Stages: Feeling abandoned and  alone. Becoming a  Joiner, accepted, Evolving as a humanitarian, believing in natural dignity of every person.

Shadow: Willing to be abused rather than be alone, gangs, mob members, becoming a victim, using prior misfortunes as an excuse.

Qualities: friendly, unpretentious, orderly, reliable, persuasive. believing in natural dignity of every person.

If You’re the One. . .He’s Gonna Change

People are sometimes awfully hard to read. But sometimes you don’t need to hear them say something to know it’s true. .

Men can send some big-time signals through the things that they do, and there are some weird things men do when they realize they met the one that, if you’re in a relationship with one, you may be interested in knowing more about.

This is primarily because people can be so difficult to read (and because expressing emotions is a challenging matter).

Even if you think you know that your partner thinks you’re the one and sees your relationship lasting long-term, you’ll question things from time to time and find yourself looking for some subtle (or super obvious) about how your partner really feels.

Nothing wrong with this. You look for signals from your dog. Right?

Here Are Some Ways to Know

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If You’re You’re Being Led Down a Rose Covered Path


If you’ve been left hanging, try this formula. Wait 20 minutes. After that, cut bait and go on with the rest of your day!

When BF is befuddled by your behavior, explain that the 20-minute rule is one you apply to EVERYONE.  Even him.  If he understands and lives up to your expectation, count it as a “He Loves You.” Notice and appreciate his courtesy.  Bubble over with how glad you are to see him.

This quality is a habit of a considerate guy.  He’s treating you right. Let him know it’s important to you and it will continue. 

By the way, his promptness is a characteristic that will help take him far in his chosen career.  It shows employers and clients they are receiving polite respect. Chalk up a “He Loves You.”


Does he say, “You’ve got to be kidding me. . .You’re out of your mind. . .get a grip” or make other comments that are put-downs?   If he does, he likely loves himself more than he loves you.  You’ve got a guy with ego enlargement. 

 If you’re aware, you can deal with it.  Begin by telling him your thoughts are as important as anyone’s.  Until you begin getting more respect, count this as an “I Love You Not.”  Do nothing.  Don’t be clingy. No cards, Emails, texts or calls.

Give it some Time to see what happens.