We FEEL color. How or what we feel about it varies from person to person. Some colors give us a mood of serenity and calm; these usually are in the blue side of the spectrum-purple and green too. . .the cool side. Others induce rage and make us uncomfortable or signify passion; these are within the red spectrum- including orange and yellow. . . the warm side.

Feelings about color are subjective, but certain colors have a very universal significance. This is coded into our reptilian brain, giving us that instinctive feeling of fire being dangerous and the beach being relaxing.

Here are ways to read potential relationships by the colors offered. Strengthen who you are or who you want to be!


Want to appear as a Dragon-Lady? Red is associated with burning passionate energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination, desire, and love. Senator Nancy Pelosi and lots of other powerful women know this.

For those who perceive you in Red, their metabolism increases. So does their respiration along with raised blood pressure. It attracts attention more than any other color. Be aware of your purpose when choosing Red.

Related colors are Magenta, Burgundy, Maroon and Purple.


Lets you shine with the energy of red and the happiness of upbeat yellow. Orange symbolizes energy, vitality, cheer, excitement, adventure, warmth, and good health. Pure orange can be brass; suggesting a lack of serious intellectual values and bad taste. This often shows up at Halloween, doesn’t it?

You are a glowing presentation wearing it. . . evoking joy, sunshine, and the tropics. It’s a great combination of effects: enthusiasm, fascination, happiness, creativity, determination, attraction, success, encouragement and stimulation.

Orange reminds me of Hindus and road hazard cones. My Dad always wore an orange tie on St. Patrick’s Day because we were Irish Protestants.

Related colors include salmon, persimmon and mango.


Yes, it is unique and authentic! Financial documents are often blue. The color expresses enthusiasm, dedication and sympathy too.

People wearing blue radiate the meaning and significance in life. Spotlight President Trump’s eternal blue suits denoting daily that he is very caring, communicative and compassionate. The Blues generally demonstrate idealism, spiritualism, peace and integrity. Count on them to be flexible and imaginative. They are natural romantics and nurturers too.

Related colors are teal and turquoise.


Reflecting joy, happiness, intellect, and energy the yellows are Optimistic.

Bright, pure yellow is an attention getter, which is the reason taxicabs and traffic signs are painted this color.

But on the verge of overuse, yellow may have a disturbing effect. Did you know that babies cry louder and more often in yellow rooms?

It’s better to show off in a golden yellow, indicating honor and loyalty. The meaning of yellow has been connected with cowardice too.

Related colors are Amber, Beige


This is the color of nature, growth, harmony, freshness, and fertility. Hmmm,

f-e-r-t-i-l-i-t-y? Yep. In the Middle Ages brides were sure to wear a bit of it. Masculinity is well shown in green too. How about army green? It’s a great color to wear if you plan on showing stability and endurance. It corresponds with money. In the USA we love our greenbacks. Green is the most common color surrounding us. Think of the sea, the pine landscapes of the United States, Christmas.

It offers tremendous healing powers. Think tea and healthful veggies. Wear stones of jade for maximum effect. It is known to attract money.

Also check: Chartreuse, Emerald Green, Hunter Green, Sage, Olive, Shamrock.


This is a color that’s linked to a gentle type of love, projecting tenderness, vulnerability and youth. It is a calming, non-threatening color, lumped together with innocence, hope and optimism. Remember Don Quixote’s girlfriend, Dulcinea? She inspired it all!

Pink also represents positive aspects of traditional femininity like nurturing and kindness. It expresses childhood sweetness and innocence, but can appear sometimes naive, goofy or silly if overdone. Take it easy with how much pink or how often.

Also check: Salmon


Combines the stability of blue and the energy of red.

Associated with royalty. It symbolizes power, nobility, luxury, and ambition.

Conveys wealth and extravagance.

Associated with wisdom, dignity, independence, creativity, mystery, and magic.

Relevant colors: Indigo, Violet, Lavender, Mauve


Associated with light, goodness, innocence, purity, and virginity.

Considered to be the color of perfection.

Signifies safety, purity, and cleanliness.

Usually has a positive connotation.

Can represent a successful beginning.

Depicts faith and purity.


Associated with power, elegance, formality, death, evil, and mystery.

A mysterious color associated with fear and the unknown (black holes).

Usually has a negative connotation (blacklist, black humor, ‘black death’).

Yet it notes notes strength and authority and is considered to be a very formal, elegant, and prestigious color.

The symbol of grief.


These developed descriptions are ways to read potential relationships by the colors you offer or the colors presented to you. Strengthen who you are or who you want to be by being observent of these vibes to the eyes.

Boundaries Aren’t All Bad

It Depends If They’re Set in Sand or Cement


“That’s weird,” you say, but concentrate on thinking of your boundaries as tools.  Boundaries as tool can be useful set in Sand or Cement. Follow here to jump-start their awesome power.

We’re using a romantic relationship as an example, but any relationship needing boundaries will improve with these techniques.

Used as a tool, a BOUNDARY IN SAND can result in progress.  Like delaying sexual intercourse until your boyfriend gives you an engagement ring.  This tactic allows you to retain a balance in your own self-image.  It also provides your boyfriend with a goal and ultimately, he gets what he wants.  He’ll consider you more valuable and worthwhile as a woman and a wife.  Since you chose him, you know he’s astute, but the power can be yours.

Whatever the issue or target-person, start with an explanation that comes from your heart:  let him know how desirable he is to you, how much you love his touch, how his kisses are yummy, how perfect it is to be with him.  Ask him if he understands.  If he says yes, draw your line in the sand.  You’ve got his agreement.  Tell him how happy he’s made you. And not just once.  Follow-up is important.  Continue to compliment your boyfriend on his understanding.  He will soon believe in his own wisdom. And you won’t feel guilty about saying, “No.”

These are rigid boundaries. They may be deal-breakers, so take your priorities seriously and from the target-person’s point of view too. 

Of course, you won’t start a relationship with boundaries in cement.  You’ve got to really get to know your guy.  For instance, you both drink alcohol.  You are moderate, but he goes overboard.  Problem??  Wait ’til you experience it twice in a spat.  

Choose a time when you’re both having fun. . .maybe at an event that includes alcohol.  After you notice him on his third drink (you’ve only had one or two), tell him you’re feeling uncomfortable.  

You may even say you’re woozy.   From your heart, tell him the concerns you have for your well-being as a couple… driving home. . .bad headaches. Suggest you switch from drinking to eating (serve him a plate!).  You might ask him to dance.  Spot some friends, take BF by the hand and go meet them.

 Any of these suggestions will result in interrupting the process of being over-served.  When the evening’s finished, gush about the fun you had.

Rinse and repeat.  It may be necessary to approach the subject a couple of times.   Remind him how important moderation is to you and how important HE is to you.  

If you don’t notice a voluntary change in his habits, plan to have THE TALK.  Be sure to touch him during the conversation. Listen to him closely.  Keep a smile going!  Tell him three drinks (or whatever) must be his limit and that’s a boundary set in cement.

In the long-view, boundaries are the lines between where I end, and you begin. Healthy boundaries define who we are in relation to others.

They also help us to know what the extents and limits are with others. Personal boundaries are how we teach people who we are and how we would like to be handled in relationships. Boundaries help you to say, “This is who I am.”

Try it. First list your most important boundaries. Divide them into Sand or Cement categories. The consistent practice of this sorting will light on-going success with any boundary that’s truly important to you. It’s easy to use with adult children and older parents.  Good to share too.