How Do I Stop Wasting What I Have?

Alternating new replacement products with the ones you already own will solve the problem.

Implementing this smart technique allows you to try new things without wasting what you already have.

Another great thing about alternating is that new items can enter your routine without a commitment to using the new stuff exclusively.

 It also lets you try new flavors, scents, brands and color even if you already have a similar product at home.

 Remember, you’re on a Skimpy Budget, right?

 It’s madness to throw away 5 bottles of shampoo you already have.

Questions Are Crucial

“You only live once, but if you do it right,
once is enough”.
-May West

Why Is It Important to Ask Questions?

Our greatest venture is our power to ask questions.  We are born with that power and use it with others from childhood.

 Answers come from other people, from the universe of knowledge and history, and from the intuition and deep wisdom sprouting inside yourself. 

Another big plus is that the search for answers may become even more helpful than the question itself.  Begin asking plenty of questions and you’ll see what I mean.

This is a technique lawyers take advantage of endlessly.

Exactly WHY should we ask questions?  You know most of the answers already, but here are those answers targeted and organized:

acquire knowledge

eliminate confusion

demonstrate humility to another

 enable people to discover answers for themselves

 to gain empathy through better understanding

influence/alter someone else’s opinion/view

to begin a relationship

strengthen a relationship

show we have knowledge on a specific topic

stimulate creativity and idea generation

gain a person’s attention

agree to disagree with clarity

Upcoming will be a collection of question catagories we all live with or perhaps die with.  No worries, the solutions will be short and targeted.    

 

 

Who Counts as Black?

Source: Ronald Hall Professor of Social Work, Michigan State University Professor of Social Work, Michigan State University

How We Came to Care

For generations, intimacy between black men and white women was taboo. A mere accusation of impropriety could lead to a lynching, and interracial marriage was illegal in a number of states.

Everything changed with the 1967 Supreme Court decision Loving v. Virginia, which ruled that blacks and whites have a legal right to intermarry. Spurred by the court’s decision, the number of interracial marriages – and, with it, the population of multiracial people – has exploded. According to the 2000 Census, 6.8 million Americans identified as multiracial. By 2010, that number grew to 9 million people. And this leaves out all of the people who might be a product of mixed ancestry but chose to still identify as either white or black.

With these demographic changes, traditional notions of black identity – once limited to the confines of dark skin or kinky hair – are no longer so.

Mixed-race African-Americans can have naturally green eyes (like the singer Rihanna) or naturally blue eyes (like actor Jessie Williams). Their hair can be styled long and wavy (Alicia Keys) or into a bob-cut (Halle Berry).

And unlike in the past – when many mixed-race people would try to do what they could to pass as white – many multiracial Americans today unabashedly embrace and celebrate their blackness.

However, these expressions of black pride have been met with grumbles by some in the black community. These mixed-race people, some argue, are not “black enough” – their skin isn’t dark enough, their hair not kinky enough. And thus they do not “count” as black. African-American presidential candidate Ben Carson even claimed President Obama couldn’t understand “the experience of black Americans” because he was “raised white.”

This debate over “who counts” has created somewhat of an identity crisis in the black community, exposing a divide between those who think being black should be based on physical looks, and those who think being black is more than looks.

‘Dark Girls’ and ‘Light Girls’

In 2011 Oprah Winfrey hosted a documentary titled “Dark Girls,” a portrayal of the pain and suffering dark-skinned black women experience.

It’s a story I know only too well. In 1992, I coauthored a book with DePaul psychologist Midge Wilson and business executive Kathy Russell called “The Color Complex,” which looked at the relationship between black identity and skin color in modern America.The trailer for ‘Dark Girls.’

As someone who has studied the issue of skin color and black identity for over 20 years, I felt uneasy after I finished watching the “Dark Girls” film. No doubt it confirmed the pain that dark-skinned black women feel. But it left something important out, and I wondered if it would lead to misconceptions.

The film seemed to suggest that if you are black, you have dark skin. Your hair is kinky. Green or blue eyes, on the other hand, represent someone who is white.

I was relieved, then, when I was asked to consult on a second documentary, “Light Girls,” in 2015, a film centered on the pain and suffering mixed-race black women endure. The subjects who were interviewed shared their stories. These women considered themselves black but said they always felt out of place, on the outside looking in. Black men often adored them, but this could quickly flip to scorn if their advances were spurned. Meanwhile, friendships with darker-skinned black women could be fraught. Insults such as “light-bright,” “mello-yellow” and “banana girl” were tossed at lighter-skinned black women, objectifying them as anything but black.

Identity experts weigh in

Some of the experts on identity take issue with the general assumptions many might have about “who is black,” especially those who think blackness is determined by skin color.

For example, in 1902 sociologist Charles Horton Cooley argued that identity is like a “looking glass self.” In other words, we are a reflection of the people around us. Mixed-race, light-skinned, green-eyed African-Americans born and raised in a black environment are no less black than their dark-skinned counterparts. In 1934, cultural anthropologist Margaret Mead said that identity was a product of our social interactions, just like Cooley.

Maybe the most well-known identity theorist is psychologist Erik Erikson. In his most popular book, “Identity: Youth and Crisis,” published in 1968, Erikson also claimed that identity is a product of our environment. But he expanded the theory a bit: It includes not only the people we interact with but also the clothes we wear, the food we eat and the music we listen to. Mixed-race African-Americans – just like dark-skinned African-Americans – would be equally uncomfortable wearing a kimono, drinking sake or listening to ongaku (a type of Japanese music). On the other hand, wearing a dashiki, eating soul food and relaxing to the beats of rap or hip-hop music is something all black people – regardless of skin tone – can identify with.

Our physical features, of course, are a product of our parents. Indeed, in the not-too-distant future, with more and more interracial marriages taking place, we may find black and white hair texture and eye and skin color indistinguishable. It’s worth noting that there’s an element of personal choice involved in racial identity – for example, you can choose how to self-identify on the census. Many multiracial Americans simply identify as “multiracial.” Others, even if they’re a product of mixed ancestry, choose “black.”

Perhaps true blackness, then, dwells not in skin color, eye color or hair texture, but in the love for the spirit and culture of all who came before us.

Colorish

We FEEL color. How or what we feel about it varies from person to person. Some colors give us a mood of serenity and calm; these usually are in the blue side of the spectrum-purple and green too. . .the cool side. Others induce rage and make us uncomfortable or signify passion; these are within the red spectrum- including orange and yellow. . . the warm side.

Feelings about color are subjective, but certain colors have a very universal significance. This is coded into our reptilian brain, giving us that instinctive feeling of fire being dangerous and the beach being relaxing.

Here are ways to read potential relationships by the colors offered. Strengthen who you are or who you want to be!

Red

Want to appear as a Dragon-Lady? Red is associated with burning passionate energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination, desire, and love. Senator Nancy Pelosi and lots of other powerful women know this.

For those who perceive you in Red, their metabolism increases. So does their respiration along with raised blood pressure. It attracts attention more than any other color. Be aware of your purpose when choosing Red.

Related colors are Magenta, Burgundy, Maroon and Purple.

Orange

Lets you shine with the energy of red and the happiness of upbeat yellow. Orange symbolizes energy, vitality, cheer, excitement, adventure, warmth, and good health. Pure orange can be brass; suggesting a lack of serious intellectual values and bad taste. This often shows up at Halloween, doesn’t it?

You are a glowing presentation wearing it. . . evoking joy, sunshine, and the tropics. It’s a great combination of effects: enthusiasm, fascination, happiness, creativity, determination, attraction, success, encouragement and stimulation.

Orange reminds me of Hindus and road hazard cones. My Dad always wore an orange tie on St. Patrick’s Day because we were Irish Protestants.

Related colors include salmon, persimmon and mango.

Blue

Yes, it is unique and authentic! Financial documents are often blue. The color expresses enthusiasm, dedication and sympathy too.

People wearing blue radiate the meaning and significance in life. Spotlight President Trump’s eternal blue suits denoting daily that he is very caring, communicative and compassionate. The Blues generally demonstrate idealism, spiritualism, peace and integrity. Count on them to be flexible and imaginative. They are natural romantics and nurturers too.

Related colors are teal and turquoise.

Yellow

Reflecting joy, happiness, intellect, and energy the yellows are Optimistic.

Bright, pure yellow is an attention getter, which is the reason taxicabs and traffic signs are painted this color.

But on the verge of overuse, yellow may have a disturbing effect. Did you know that babies cry louder and more often in yellow rooms?

It’s better to show off in a golden yellow, indicating honor and loyalty. The meaning of yellow has been connected with cowardice too.

Related colors are Amber, Beige

Green

This is the color of nature, growth, harmony, freshness, and fertility. Hmmm,

f-e-r-t-i-l-i-t-y? Yep. In the Middle Ages brides were sure to wear a bit of it. Masculinity is well shown in green too. How about army green? It’s a great color to wear if you plan on showing stability and endurance. It corresponds with money. In the USA we love our greenbacks. Green is the most common color surrounding us. Think of the sea, the pine landscapes of the United States, Christmas.

It offers tremendous healing powers. Think tea and healthful veggies. Wear stones of jade for maximum effect. It is known to attract money.

Also check: Chartreuse, Emerald Green, Hunter Green, Sage, Olive, Shamrock.

Pink

This is a color that’s linked to a gentle type of love, projecting tenderness, vulnerability and youth. It is a calming, non-threatening color, lumped together with innocence, hope and optimism. Remember Don Quixote’s girlfriend, Dulcinea? She inspired it all!

Pink also represents positive aspects of traditional femininity like nurturing and kindness. It expresses childhood sweetness and innocence, but can appear sometimes naive, goofy or silly if overdone. Take it easy with how much pink or how often.

Also check: Salmon

Purple

Combines the stability of blue and the energy of red.

Associated with royalty. It symbolizes power, nobility, luxury, and ambition.

Conveys wealth and extravagance.

Associated with wisdom, dignity, independence, creativity, mystery, and magic.

Relevant colors: Indigo, Violet, Lavender, Mauve

White

Associated with light, goodness, innocence, purity, and virginity.

Considered to be the color of perfection.

Signifies safety, purity, and cleanliness.

Usually has a positive connotation.

Can represent a successful beginning.

Depicts faith and purity.

Black

Associated with power, elegance, formality, death, evil, and mystery.

A mysterious color associated with fear and the unknown (black holes).

Usually has a negative connotation (blacklist, black humor, ‘black death’).

Yet it notes notes strength and authority and is considered to be a very formal, elegant, and prestigious color.

The symbol of grief.

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..

These developed descriptions are ways to read potential relationships by the colors you offer or the colors presented to you. Strengthen who you are or who you want to be by being observent of these vibes to the eyes.

Outlaws and Rebels

Built America’s Core

The Outlaw archetype is a very American one and is in many ways is a common behavior of freedom loving American individuals. Today we revere the off-beat risk takers like Lady Gaga and Tom Cruise.

Lady Gaga






But in different eras, Outlaw types consumed the wild, lawless West with all its renegades, lawbreakers and rebels. Let’s give credit to early colonial America too.  It was founded by Outlaws beginning with the Pilgrims and Puritans rebelling against the British monarchy of King George III.

Noting that we celebrate the Outlaw archetype every Thanksgiving Day is a fabulous way to remind us of our rebellious past!  We are thankful and appreciative because these risk-takers moved us to the glorious country we live in today.

Early mountain men were outsiders or mavericks and the wild freedom of America appealed to this type. The Outlaw archetype continued to play out on the American theater in the light and shadow with the destruction of Native American tribes to the rise of abolitionists and the overthrow of slavery.

The Confederate States of America formed prior to the outbreak of the American Civil War are an example of a collective type of Outlaw.  Interestingly, the Confederate army soldier was known as Johnny Reb, a clear reflection of the Rebel archetype.

Later, Outlaws like Thomas Edison, Henry Ford and John D. Rockefeller propelled America into the age of invention and technology.  It proved that Outlaws are very powerful types.

In our time, we see The Outlaw as a counterculture capable of releasing society from its taboos – sex, drugs, and rock ’n’ roll.

This is achieved by tapping into the shadowy part of human nature. For instance, any brand marketed that tries to liberate itself (or others) from repression of the prevailing culture is an Outlaw.  The iconic Harley-Davidson motorcycle brand is often feared, rebellious, shocking and disruptive.  It appeals to Outlaws.

“Easy Rider”

The classic Outlaw brand is Harley-Davidson, which has been the subject of many branding case studies. Harley has created an iconic Outlaw feel to their brand (the daredevil rather than the American hero). Rather than try to compete with Japanese makers who sold better products at cheaper prices, Harley-Davidson decided to market meaning (making it much easier to develop brand extensions into clothing and accessories).

Harley owners are typically professionals who want to express their wild side.  To see them as unconventional thinkers would be an understatement. These dudes and dudettes make it a point to confidently motivate others to think differently, and ignore conformity. This revolutionary radical takes a stand for freedom and a sense of social consciousness.

When the developed side of The Outlaw is sitting at Command Central, as opposed to the shadow side, people will meet a surprisingly humble, honest individual, living on the cusp of life and death. These types achieve balance between exercising responsibility to their ideals when confronting contrary ones.

It’s easy to see how The Outlaw (remember the Big Lowbowski?) can give in to the dark side and cross over into criminal and violent acts. Their anger and feelings of powerlessness and mistreatment can make them this way. And don’t we love movies about a cop gone bad?

Here’s a list of some of the Top ones:

Training Day

Eva Mendes, Snoop Dogg, Denzel Washington

The Departed

Leonardo DiCaprio, Jack Nicholson, Alec Baldwin

Léon: The Professional

Natalie Portman, Gary Oldman, Jean Reno

Dirty Harry

Clint Eastwood, Suzanne Somers, Hal Holbrook

American Gangster

Denzel Washington, Russell Crowe, Idris Elba

These characters are reckless or even unstable. They might be careless with their own safety and the safety of others, putting loved ones in danger. The ideals and philosophies they are fighting for become all-consuming.  Addictions and compulsions, emotional/physical abuse, murder, and are all possibilities.  

Here’s what makes rebels and Outlaws roll:

Goals

To disrupt/destroy

To change/overthrow what isn’t working

To let go of their anger/driving force and return to balance

Fears

To be powerless, trivialized  

To be ineffectual

To be annihilated

Motto

Rules are meant to be broken

Core Desire

Revenge or revolution, reform and ultimately renewal is at the heart of this powerful archetype.

Needs

Structure, humility, good boundaries, acceptance for who they are.

The Outlaw/Rebel archetype is the last of 12 designated by Swiss Psychiatrist Carl Jung in the 1930’s.  They have provided the basis for contemporary psychology which now has expanded in to 630 personality types. If you have further interest, you might take the free Meyers-Briggs test.  Click  Free Personality Test.

Everyman Wants to Belong

everyman - blake shelton

The Everyman accepts and cuddles others. They like being around people who know and enjoy good-natured humor and laidback charm.

So do you recognize Blake Shelton’s photo above? He’s one of the judges on TV’s “The Voice” He’s an awesome example of the good ol’ boy Everyman Personality.

Modeled by the Guy or the Girl Next Door, Everyman archetypes are wholesome and genuine This makes them hugely likeable.

The Everyman manifests the American ideals of hard work and honesty, and lives by common sense values and authenticity. They feel no need for pretense. They don’t measure themselves with status symbols.

Motto: All men and women are created equal

Basic desire: Connection with others

Objective: Belonging to a group

Fear: Being left out

Strategy: Common Sense

Weakness: Losing one’s own personality

Stages: Feeling abandoned and  alone. Becoming a  Joiner, accepted, Evolving as a humanitarian, believing in natural dignity of every person.

Shadow: Willing to be abused rather than be alone, gangs, mob members, becoming a victim, using prior misfortunes as an excuse.

Qualities: friendly, unpretentious, orderly, reliable, persuasive. believing in natural dignity of every person.

Why You Like a Funny Guy!!

 

Funny Guy

Andy Kaufman

It may start in the classroom but evolves in maturity to an important part of Sexual Selection.  In Biology this is the term for how we display preferences by one sex for certain characteristics in individuals of the other sex.  Men desire women who think they’re funny.  Lucky for us women!

Evolutionary psychologists say that a sense of humor is a sign of intellect and strong genes. To women, who are more selective, because of the burdens associated with pregnancy, funny men are attractive because of the genetic benefit for potential offspring.

When you have much else to go on, a witty person who uses humor in a clever, original way is signaling lots of information, including intelligence, creativity, and even parts of their personality like playfulness and openness to experiences.

In addition to the pull women feel toward funny men, men find women more attractive when they laugh. This could be since laughter signifies enjoyment and interest, or connection and understanding — all desirable qualities in a potential mate.  Nice how it all works together!

Whether he likes to show off with slapstick, puns, long stories or teasing, LAUGH!  A woman who laughs at a man’s jokes indicates an interest in him, and this spurs even further interest on the part of your guy.

This article has been excerpted from the book Humor’s Hidden Power: Weapon, Shield and Psychological Salve, by Nichole Force, M.A.

If You’re the One. . .He’s Gonna Change

People are sometimes awfully hard to read. But sometimes you don’t need to hear them say something to know it’s true. .

Men can send some big-time signals through the things that they do, and there are some weird things men do when they realize they met the one that, if you’re in a relationship with one, you may be interested in knowing more about.

This is primarily because people can be so difficult to read (and because expressing emotions is a challenging matter).

Even if you think you know that your partner thinks you’re the one and sees your relationship lasting long-term, you’ll question things from time to time and find yourself looking for some subtle (or super obvious) about how your partner really feels.

Nothing wrong with this. You look for signals from your dog. Right?

Here Are Some Ways to Know

black girl confused

If You’re You’re Being Led Down a Rose Covered Path

 

If you’ve been left hanging, try this formula. Wait 20 minutes. After that, cut bait and go on with the rest of your day!

When BF is befuddled by your behavior, explain that the 20-minute rule is one you apply to EVERYONE.  Even him.  If he understands and lives up to your expectation, count it as a “He Loves You.” Notice and appreciate his courtesy.  Bubble over with how glad you are to see him.
 
 HE ALMOST ALWAYS ARRIVES ON TIME.

This quality is a habit of a considerate guy.  He’s treating you right. Let him know it’s important to you and it will continue. 

By the way, his promptness is a characteristic that will help take him far in his chosen career.  It shows employers and clients they are receiving polite respect. Chalk up a “He Loves You.”
 

HE RESPONDS TO YOUR REQUESTS OR BELIEFS WITH CONDESCENDING OR SARCASTIC STATEMENTS?

Does he say, “You’ve got to be kidding me. . .You’re out of your mind. . .get a grip” or make other comments that are put-downs?   If he does, he likely loves himself more than he loves you.  You’ve got a guy with ego enlargement. 

 If you’re aware, you can deal with it.  Begin by telling him your thoughts are as important as anyone’s.  Until you begin getting more respect, count this as an “I Love You Not.”  Do nothing.  Don’t be clingy. No cards, Emails, texts or calls.

Give it some Time to see what happens.
 

 

The Magician Makes Things Happen

Steve Jobs

 

The Magician is a Jungian archetype associated with mystery, and transformation. In our contemporary world, one of the best examples of The Magician is Steve Jobs.

He displayed  an innate relationship of potential and possibility.  A thinker, a weaver, The Magician is a powerful and dynamic archetype with many variants.  Often The Magician is associated with the intellect and can easily bridge the inner world of mind and spirit to the outer world of creation and physical manifestation. The Magician usually has charisma and is well-liked and admired by others. The outer expression of the Magician can be seen in the constant learner, the drive to gain knowledge of the outside world and understanding through books, teachers and other formal methods of education. The inner expression of the Magician can be seen in the intuition. The Magician learns from the inner experience of intuiting and then trusting that inner information through action.

MOTTO Anything is possible

GOAL Make dreams come true
Bring visions to life
Create something from nothing
Effect transformations

FEAR Addiction Breaking promises
Under delivering
Unintended negative consequences

 

MLK (1)

Martin Luther King thrived on power and legacy. He achieved transformation in a previously unimaginable way. He redefined common perceptions and empowered people to affect change alongside him. Driven by the need to fulfill his vision for racial equality, Martin Luther King  can be considered a personification of

The Enlightened Magician will have experienced some kind of initiation, often painful or humiliating, that opens the doors to their own transformation from shadow to light. He thrived with innovation. King re-framed challenges as opportunities. He was able to see possibility, and through inventiveness, and set off a chain reaction.

Goal: To make dreams come true, understand the laws of the universe

Greatest fear: Unintended negative consequences

Weakness: Becoming manipulative

Talent: Finding win-win solutions, imagining a better future

 

Magician Archetype Shim Lin

The Stage Magician pictured here is Shim Lin, the all time winner of America’s Got Talent.  He is a way to look at this archetype and see it in action. The stage magician uses illusion to create an atmosphere and can be used to distract or give others a false impression. Magicians are dedicated to creating an otherworldly atmosphere where anything is possible. This allows the audience to suspend reality and open their minds to possibilities.  Shim Lin, Stage Magician

Goal: Transformation

Fear: Evil sorcery

Response to Problem: Transform it

Task: Align self with cosmos

Gift: Personal power

Addictions: Power, hallucinogenic or mind-altering drugs

 

“You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.” – Carl Jung

 

 

 

 

Boundaries Aren’t All Bad

It Depends If They’re Set in Sand or Cement

 

“That’s weird,” you say, but concentrate on thinking of your boundaries as tools.  Boundaries as tool can be useful set in Sand or Cement. Follow here to jump-start their awesome power.

We’re using a romantic relationship as an example, but any relationship needing boundaries will improve with these techniques.

Used as a tool, a BOUNDARY IN SAND can result in progress.  Like delaying sexual intercourse until your boyfriend gives you an engagement ring.  This tactic allows you to retain a balance in your own self-image.  It also provides your boyfriend with a goal and ultimately, he gets what he wants.  He’ll consider you more valuable and worthwhile as a woman and a wife.  Since you chose him, you know he’s astute, but the power can be yours.

Whatever the issue or target-person, start with an explanation that comes from your heart:  let him know how desirable he is to you, how much you love his touch, how his kisses are yummy, how perfect it is to be with him.  Ask him if he understands.  If he says yes, draw your line in the sand.  You’ve got his agreement.  Tell him how happy he’s made you. And not just once.  Follow-up is important.  Continue to compliment your boyfriend on his understanding.  He will soon believe in his own wisdom. And you won’t feel guilty about saying, “No.”

These are rigid boundaries. They may be deal-breakers, so take your priorities seriously and from the target-person’s point of view too. 

Of course, you won’t start a relationship with boundaries in cement.  You’ve got to really get to know your guy.  For instance, you both drink alcohol.  You are moderate, but he goes overboard.  Problem??  Wait ’til you experience it twice in a spat.  

Choose a time when you’re both having fun. . .maybe at an event that includes alcohol.  After you notice him on his third drink (you’ve only had one or two), tell him you’re feeling uncomfortable.  

You may even say you’re woozy.   From your heart, tell him the concerns you have for your well-being as a couple… driving home. . .bad headaches. Suggest you switch from drinking to eating (serve him a plate!).  You might ask him to dance.  Spot some friends, take BF by the hand and go meet them.

 Any of these suggestions will result in interrupting the process of being over-served.  When the evening’s finished, gush about the fun you had.

Rinse and repeat.  It may be necessary to approach the subject a couple of times.   Remind him how important moderation is to you and how important HE is to you.  

If you don’t notice a voluntary change in his habits, plan to have THE TALK.  Be sure to touch him during the conversation. Listen to him closely.  Keep a smile going!  Tell him three drinks (or whatever) must be his limit and that’s a boundary set in cement.

In the long-view, boundaries are the lines between where I end, and you begin. Healthy boundaries define who we are in relation to others.

They also help us to know what the extents and limits are with others. Personal boundaries are how we teach people who we are and how we would like to be handled in relationships. Boundaries help you to say, “This is who I am.”

Try it. First list your most important boundaries. Divide them into Sand or Cement categories. The consistent practice of this sorting will light on-going success with any boundary that’s truly important to you. It’s easy to use with adult children and older parents.  Good to share too.

Whatever Could Go Wrong?

Men want to feel committed to their partners, but they ‘re confused about whether they’ve consciously chosen them..

This is the conundrum that erupts when relationships are founded on convenience.  Maybe it seems smart and feels good to save money by living together.  Maybe no one else wants either of you.

This sort of ambiguity interferes with the process of claiming the people we love. A life built on top of “let’s try it” does not feel as dedicated as a life built on the “we do” commitment of marriage.

Couples who move in together with differing levels of commitment and those who use “shacking up”  as a test, are at high risk for poor relationship quality and eventual collapse of the relationship leading to serial cohabitation.

Do you get that your guy is foggy about the two of you?

That fact is the primary reason why you’ll benefit from making a list of his best traits.  Those are the ones most important to you and the ones to cultivate.  From your list you’ll find the clues to lead him to the alter.  When you begin highlighting them, you’ll find your boyfriend’s morphed into a husband and boosted you to the top of your desired pedestal!

Push yourself to create a list of the reasons you want him for the rest of your life.  Each of those reasons are tools to allow you to lead your relationship. Yes you can.  It’s designated by your female gender.   Remember, he’s befuddled and confused.  You are skillful, positive and believable!  Trust your feminine instincts.  They are your gifts.

Here’s a list of “Boyfriend Traits.”  See some that apply?  List them all explore the others that you want to apply for a strong commitment.

  • Educated
  • Thoughtful
  • Handsome
  • Good Family and Friends
  • Patient
  • Sexy
  • Fun
  • Communicative
  • Flexible
  •  Makes Time for You
  • Goal Oriented

Now you’ve created your own guide to enduring qualities.  Consult it often and be aware of which traits you’ll begin polishing promoting and preserving.